The algorithm of true love is not so hard to calculate—if one is not tied to formulas. The key is to know what true love is, how to recognize and express it. The topic comes up each Valentine’s Day, an occasion that can include everyone whether we’re looking for love or celebrating its presence in our lives. Writer Steve Salt, whose own love affair with his wife has lasted over 40 years, gives us some tips. He says:
“The rubric for any authentic relationship is selfless devotion. Romantic love, brotherly love, or familial love, all blossom from what the Bible calls agape love – that love which blesses others without thinking of one’s self. I think of it as God-reflected love or absolute love.
“More than a feeling or sensation, agape love is a motivation for action. It is self-sacrificing and includes impelling traits such as compassion, empathy, listening, forgiveness, generosity, patience, and thoughtfulness.
“Awareness of these qualities and striving to live them are invaluable to the sustainability of a genuine relationship, romantic or otherwise. And what’s fascinating is the more love you give, the more you get back. That’s a reliable and practical formula I have proven time and again.”
Salt reminds us that the Bible defines God as Love and divine Love as God. As the discoverer and founder of Christian Science adds, “More than this we cannot ask, higher we cannot look, farther we cannot go.” (Mary Baker Eddy)
If you’d like to know more of Salt’s views on true love’s algorithm, Read More here.